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Defending the Facts

Having an effective conversation with someone who doesn't share your views is possible! Here are some tips to consider, and a list of myths vs. facts to refer to.

Helpful Tips

Establish a mutually respectful environment.

• Set goals for the conversation with the other person, such as seeking to build greater understanding.
• Use language that recognizes the sensitivity and complexity of the issues, rather than words that can provoke anger and/or turn people against each other.
• Since the antisemitic bias can be implicit (unconscious) or explicit (conscious), acknowledge the thought processes or emotions that may come up for you with curiosity rather than judgment.
• Consider the time and place. As violence unfolds or the conflict escalates, people may be in greater need of emotional support rather than educational opportunities.
• Most importantly, listen to the other person so you can truly understand their perspective.

Position yourself as a learner, not an expert.

• The Israeli-Palestinian conflict has roots that predate current events, and there are a wide variety of historical, religious, political and cultural factors in play.  It is complex, nuanced, and multi-layered.
• Therefore, avoid oversimplifications that lead to stereotyping and bias.  The best way to do that is to read a variety of informed sources from different perspectives.
• Accept and expect that there won’t be closure at the end of the conversation. Not all of the questions will be answered and resolved – and that's okay.

Choose language that humanizes the people living in the region.

• Use precise language. For example, distinguish between Hamas or other terrorist organizations and the Palestinian people.
• Similarly insist that precise language be used by others. Israel, for instance, should be referred to by name, not some euphemism.
• Do not use – nor accept the use of – dehumanizing depictions of individuals and groups of people as non-human, animals, vermin, or insects.  Same goes for stereotypes and myths that depict people as all “good” or all “evil” based on their identity group.

Challenge language that holds Jewish individuals and groups accountable for the actions of the state of Israel.

• Recognize the historical harm caused by holding communities or individuals accountable for a nation's actions.
• Point out when someone is treating Jewish individuals or groups as representatives of all Jewish people, considering the diverse opinions related to Israel's government and actions.
• Note how acts like anti-Israel vandalism targeting Jewish individuals or buildings are antisemitic because they are targeting Jews, not the Israeli government.

Ground conversations in reliable informational resources.

• Anchor conversations with texts or videos from credible organizations or experts.
• Be aware of widespread misinformation during conflicts. Practice media literacy by assessing your sources.
• Include nuanced perspectives and minimize one-sided views.

Source: ADL